I remember the way I used to view motherhood before I actually became a mother. I couldn’t get past the the cute baby bump and the sweet, sleeping newborn images I saw on TV and in ads.
If you’re a mom, you know I got a pretty big reality check the minute my first child was born. I have really embraced motherhood and I truly believe it is my calling, but like any mom, and especially those of us who stay at home with young children, I have my days where I want to just sit in my room alone for a few minutes.
As I’m going about the house doing chores like laundry or sweeping or cooking, I will often feel a tug at my pant leg, and then I will hear a soft whine from a certain little girl. If I don’t pick her up quick enough, the whine will get louder and louder. Usually while this is going on, my oldest is saying, “Mama come here,” or, “Mama, I need to go to the bathroom,” “Mama, I want some strawberry milk.” It never ends. Someone always needs something.
Often, I feel like I never get anything accomplished, but you know what? That’s not true. I am actually accomplishing something far greater than doing the dishes or vacuuming the floor. I’m nurturing people. Mothering and nurturing our kids is so important.
Our children need us. Yes, at times they must learn to wait while we do things, but as parents we need to spend time with our children. We need to let them know we love them and care about them. Our children are a blessing to us from God, not a burden. I hate when I hear people complain about their kids bugging them. I’m guilty of doing it, too, every now and then, but I have come to realize that when my kids are bugging me, it’s because they need me.
I try everyday to make a conscious effort to actually sit in the floor and play with my kids. We build block towers, play cars, or read stories. Not only do we practice colors and shapes while we play, but we are bonding and building a strong relationship.
I would like to encourage you, especially if you are a stay at home mom, to take some time and actually do something with your kids. Step away from the computer, put your smartphone in a place you can’t see it, and actually enjoy your children. My children often whine because they are bored or just want my attention. When I take the time to just play with them, we have a lot less whining going on in the house.