Goals. A new year is coming and most everyone is focused on their new goals. Maybe you want to lose weight, make more money, or do something just to improve yourself. What if I challenged you to look at your goals in a different light? What if instead of focusing on what we can do for ourselves when it comes to setting goals, we look at what we can do for others?
You know, I don’t know if it’s spiritual growth, maturity, or a combination of the two, but I’m looking toward 2020 in a way I’ve never done before. We live in such a self-absorbed culture. Everyone is snapping selfies and talking about what we can do to make ourselves happier. Just buy these clothes, buy this makeup, drive this car, and the list goes on and on. Friends, let me tell you that will only buy temporary happiness. Maybe you’ll feel good in the moment, but the moment won’t last. So, what is the key? After all, isn’t the only reason we work toward goals is for a happier and more fulfilled life?
When I first got married I was pretty selfish. My husband and I would argue and I would always say, “Well, I’m not happy. You’re not making me happy.” I think one of the most powerful things he has ever said to me is, “It’s not always about you.” Ouch.
And for a while I resisted. Then we started adding children to our lives, and nope, “it’s” not about me, it’s never been about me. God didn’t put me on this earth to satisfy myself.
For years I’ve wondered how to be a good homemaker. I know that is a controversial term. The truth is, if you have a home, you are a modern homemaker. That responsibility falls onto the people running the home. It is up to you and your spouse, your partner, whomever you’re doing life with, to make a home. It’s up to you to do what it takes to keep the lights on, food on the table, and all of the little insignificant and big things that make children want to come back as adults.
How To Set and Achieve Homemaking Goals
Homemaking goals extend far beyond your usual meal plans and cleaning schedules. What kind of tone do you want to set for your home? How do you want the people in your home to feel? Do you want them to feel loved? Do you want your home to be a sanctuary from the harsh world? What can you do to achieve that peaceful tone?
Write your goal down. There’s just something about handwriting a goal that seems to make it more concrete. How can you make that goal happen? Write three actionable steps you can take to reach that goal, and then do them!
My Word of the Year
This is the first year I’ve ever really chosen a word. My word for 2020 is CONSISTENT. I have no problem getting things done, but there are so many things I have not been consistent with. What do I want to be consistent with:
- Bedtime Stories
- Going to Church
- Reading My Bible
- Reaching Out To People Who Need It
- Making My Kids Feel Special
- Making My Husband Feel Special
- My Online Work Schedule (I talked about plans for this blog and YouTube in this video)
- Our Homeschool Routine
- Personal Reading (It’s something that I love doing and haven’t done nearly enough of in the last few years)
- Dr.’s and Dentist’s Appointments
- Getting in Some Form of Exercise 3x a Week (easy to do with YouTube videos)
- Trying New Things and Not Being So Dang Scared
That list looks like a lot of “me” things, I know, but honestly, all of those “me” things are really things I’m doing as an outreach. I want to be healthy so I can continue making a home for my family. I want to be here for my kids and then eventually their kids. I want to make special time for my kids because I know how fleeting time is. My oldest is 11. It happened in a blink.
Going to church, reading my Bible, and praying are all things that have made me reevaluate my purpose on this earth, and I want to do God’s will, be a better a person, and reach out to others. Lastly, I have struggled with anxiety for the majority of my life. After a major breakdown while pregnant with my fifth child, I finally reached out for help and have learned how to manage and let go of so much fear that kept me from doing things. I want to continue down that path of letting my fears go.
Free Printable Goal Sheets
I like to write down my goals and journal. I have created a free PDF printable goal sheet page that will allow you to jot down your big picture goals this year. How can you change your goals to focus less on you and more on others? I use this simple goal setting worksheet to lay all of my goals out for the year, then I keep it in my home management binder for easy reference.